Chiang Mai: Culture and Chilling

July 9-15, Day 13-19

Writing on the train!

July 9

Took an overnight sleeper train up to the north. I felt like I was on an automatic watch roller at several points, constantly ambling, jostling, and waking up, but still decently comfortable for the cost (~$30) when you factor in saving a night of accommodations as well. The worst part was that I got fucking FEASTED by mosquitoes on the train somehow - I thought I was safe without DEET cause it’s a freaking train and now I’m suffering for that. 

The hostel is in a convenient location but super empty, which is kinda shitty. Staying in touch with the Ayutthaya people at least though. From walking around, the Old City where I’m staying is super touristy, definitely catering to foreigners with rows of english cafes, restaurants, and massage parlors (mostly empty because of low season) packed together.

Met up with a few Ayutthaya people at the touristy drinking area. Got decently lit at the Thai reggae bar, which was a genre I was never expecting to experience - it was funny to see a Thai guy in dreads jamming out with a full band. The other bars are all interestingly themed playing hard techno (ft. German tourists), rock, and typical club bangers all packed into one block. There’s also a bunch of  grandmas trying to sell roses and wristbands that say things like ‘I love dick salad’ to drunk tourists.

Thai reggae band (unfortunately no guy with dreads in this one).

Quick Thai History Lesson

Yay history

Some things I learned about Thai and Chiang Mai history after visiting a few museums that were in no way fact checked :)

Chiang Mai is a neat square formerly contained within four walls, interestingly modeled after the human body parts and organs. For example, the main temples and government buildings are at the navel, the east/west gates were considered like limbs bringing people into the city, whereas the southwest (the butt I guess...) was used as an exit for funeral processions and other unlucky things.

The city also linked 12 sacred Buddhist sites for pilgrimage and was a hub for the practice. Local Buddhism also evolved several times from the local practice from influence of Sukhothai and later Sri Lankan (ceylon) groups.

Thailand for years was split into multiple kingdoms, notably with Chiang Mai in the northern Lanna kingdom and Siam (Ayutthaya) to the south. Towards the end of the Mungrai dynasty (262 years), Chiang Mai declined in strength with conflicts between the king and nobles, and then conquered by the Burmese for 216 years. The Lanna overthrew the Burmese with the aid of Siam and became an independent vassal state for some time, serving as a buffer state in the many wars against Burma. It was interesting to see this after visiting Ayutthaya, which was totally razed by the Burmese and what precipitated the creation of Bangkok as the new capital.

Once the good ol’ colonization period began, Britain occupied Burma, and Siam fearing the same fate annexed Lanna (with good relations) to consolidate. It was forced concessions to Western powers, but remained the only Southeast Asian country to avoid direct rule. The country became modern Thailand in 1932 when it switched from absolute monarchy to a democracy, though they still clearly love their royalty.

Other tidbits:

  • There are several native Hill tribes, some who are migrants from neighboring countries

  • Apparently used to grow opium until the government banned it and turned them into fruit/veg plantations. Less regulated neighboring countries have taken to producing meth and other substances now though.

  • Roots in both Buddhism and animism, and follow the same zodiac as the Chinese, paying respect to their birth year animal

  • Lanna has a completely different language/alphabet from Thai. There is a lot of regional pride (and also lots of tourist stores that will throw in Lanna with most people not realizing what it actually means). I remember talking to someone about how native dialects like Taiwanese and Cantonese are slowly fading in lieu of Mandarin, and he said it was the same for Lanna.

July 10: Monk Chat

I’m a bit temple-d out after visiting so many in Bangkok and Ayutthaya, but watching evening chanting live at this one was still an awesome experience.

One thing I was excited for in northern Thailand was the opportunity to learn more about Buddhism. I’ve dabbled a bit with SF Zen Center but never really researched it. After reading about Monk Chats, where monks basically hold office hours at local temples, I jumped at the opportunity to speak with some of the enigmatic figures I had seen in the streets.

At Wat Suan Dok I spoke with a couple young monks, who were there to practice their English. There was also one who had studied Mandarin for three years and started gushing when he saw I was Chinese, while I struggled to tap into the canned phrases I memorized from my one year of the language. I learned a lot more about the monk life at later events, which I'll save for a dedicated post.

I also met Ian, a British man who worked at the temple university and shared his very interesting life story. He’s lived in Thailand for 24 years, turning 80 soon. When I asked what made him move he told me Thailand has always felt like home since he started visiting over 40 years ago. As a gay, dyslexic, slightly autistic person in the West, he’s always ‘felt like a failure’ by his family standards. He seemed pretty well connected, with either a sibling or close friend as some high level figure in the Hong Kong government - treasurer or secretary of something - but I didn’t want to pry. There was also a Muslim girl also attending and the three of us had interesting discourse about Buddhism as a set of life principles, irrespective of your religion, and its role in therapy and mental illness as meditation popularizes in the West.

Ian was nice enough to offer me a ride to my next destination, during which he lamented about the degradation of the university’s English and Monk Chat programs, which had he helped run. At one point we passed the Thai Monk Chat organizer and Ian quipped ‘you don’t know what you’re doing at all do you? And you’re the one in charge!’ To which he confusedly replied ‘oh yes, thank you’ - showcasing the lack of actual English ability of many of the participants. Ian talked about the lack of leadership and students who were actually committed to Buddhism. ‘That Lao student you were talking to is just there for the English education. Once he graduates he’ll hang his robes up. The worst part is that none of the teachers will fail any of the students here either.’ 

To him, Thais didn’t understand that just getting a degree for the resume bullet wouldn’t win them a job - ‘it gets you the interview, then you come in and everyone will realize you didn’t bloody learn to speak English’. 

July 11

The city is weirdly empty during the day - so many stalls, vendors, and restaurants with workers sitting around with no business. More pedestrian and vehicle traffic late afternoon, I guess when people get off work or from their day trips to come back into old city. Being touristy isn’t a bad thing, but there’s a feeling of hollowness in low season that makes me not want to stay in the old city for an extended period of time. There's no sense of community even within my hostel.
It's also interesting to observe my attitude towards budgeting change as I adjust to Asia prices - will be minorly annoyed that I paid 70 Baht for a cab instead of walking and taking a 5B ferry, but in the end it’s literally 2 dollars and I would burn magnitudes more normally in SF.

Date with ‘P’

Ploen Ruedee Night Market. One of the more upscale, hip bazaars with live music and bougier stuff like rolled ice cream (worth).

Got dinner near the night bazaar with a Chiang Mai local. Like ‘F’, she also previously lived in the States, studying English in Boston at a language school. She works at two hotels doing business sales until 7pm everyday, though her longterm aspirations are in fashion. On top of full-time work, she’s starting her own clothing booth, with plans to curate designs from a wholesale vendor in Bangkok and resell to the many Chinese tourists near Nimman Road. It was ironic she explicitly chose to study Japanese over Chinese at school.

She mentioned that because the Thai economy isn’t great, her parents work multiple jobs and plan to sell cheesy fries at a nearby stall. Imagining vending together as a family affair was cute at first, but also a healthy privilege check. I’m reminded of the stark economic disparity everytime I order a full meal here for $3, but it resonates more when you hear someone’s personal circumstances. I’ve met so many people who can only dream of moving to the States, and I really am fortunate to have been born into so much more economic opportunity for less required effort. 

July 12

Admiring nature - spontaneous adventures with random people you meet in the lobby are always great.

Changed hostels because my old one was still deserted, and made a new friend ‘B’ in the lobby within ten minutes of walking in. Functionally, the place has worse rooms and location but it’s honestly worth the ambiance and social aspect of the common area.

B is doing her master’s in conservation science and biology and does research on snakes, with a goal of destigmatizing the fear and bias (starting from Adam and Eve) we have against them. She’s been in Thailand to observe the biomes here and spent some time at a forest monastery for her program. It was invigorating to discuss the intersection between Buddhism and conservation efforts, given we’re both in the process of learning about the practice and I haven’t had to opportunity to discuss it with anyone thus far. Apparently she and her peers had an inquiry about how long leeches would stay on, and how big they could get, and ended up testing on themselves. Her’s was on for two hours...the things you do for science.

We went up to a mountainside temple and hiked a few trails around the area. It was fun to have her point out random plants and giant bugs I wouldn’t have noticed on my own and share science trivia. 

Doi Suthep - a mountaintop temple with a beautiful view of Chiang Mai.

July 13: Into the Wild

Went to ‘Into the Wild’ elephant sanctuary today. Visiting elephant camps is one of the most popular tourist activities in Chiang Mai but often still controversial out of ethical concerns. Are the elephants retired ones used formerly for labor or entertainment, or bred into captivity? Do the mahouts use chains or hooks? Do people ride them?

My friend helped choose this specific camp so I hadn’t done much research, but enjoyed the nearly 45min talk that the camp owner gave to answer questions about ethics before we did any activities. Basically, the elephants he owned were purchased from indigenous hill tribes that have owned elephants for generations and used them for logging teak trees. He mentioned using them to butt down trees with their heads sounds cruel, which is why he decided to open camp for his give elephants, but to also consider the following points when thinking about ethics.

Got farted on shortly after this. At least they have healthy diets so it didn’t smell too bad :’)

  1. Logging machinery can’t operate here due to the terrain, and these tribes typically have few other economic opportunities, and have elephants passed down within the family.

  2. Him purchasing an elephant for ~1.8M baht (~$60k) gives them resources to pursue education or move elsewhere for work. He clarified that they would not use this to purchase more elephants because the money is divided across the family members.

  3. Elephants have always been the beasts of burden in Thailand, for riding and for labor, just like horses, camels, oxen, or mules anywhere else. It’s part of the culture, just like factory farming and eating meat, bullfighting, or horse racing might be in our own. He mentioned that riding an elephant isn’t particularly unethical or painful when compared to riding a horse, but that consumer preferences are still changing over time, and he doesn’t do it at his camp.

  4. The argument can be made that wild animals should only belong in the wild, and not kept for human interaction, but he mentioned that there is almost no remaining natural habitat for these elephants to go to, they were raised in captivity and are already dependent on humans, and if let loose could roam into a town and cause trouble in search for food.

  5. On the topic of profiting off of the animals, he had no qualms admitting the camp in the end is still a business. He also talked about the extreme costs of renting the land, preparing the inordinate amount of food elephants eat, hiring local villagers, and the personal dedication he had made, quitting a longterm government job as a vet and working everyday to keep the operation going. The deep-rooted cynic in me could be skeptical on some point, but he seemed pretty genuine.

The rest of the time was spent feeding the elephants, going on a short hike, mud bathing, then washing off with them - definitely a curated tourist experience but still amazing to interact with the animals nonetheless. Highlights include watching one poop into the water (which thankfully float) and one of the locals chuck each giant turd out of the pool, and seeing the baby elephants fully submerge underwater and stick their trunks out as snorkels. Must be handy.

That night I also saw a ladyboy cabaret show at night with some hostel people, which included some very convincing performers lipsyncing and doing choreo in crazy costumes. At one point of the of performers stepped onto our table in giant heels and jumped off landing into the splits... Apparently at other shows they’ll ‘volunteer’ some guys from the audience for lap dances, stripping, and some other shenanigans. We sat in the back corner just to be safe.

July 14

Did a free morning yoga class in the park, which then turned into an impromptu acroyoga jam session which B started. I can see how Chiang Mai is a good expat city, with its chill ambience, readily available hipster cafes, and lifestyle activities like the daily yoga class. I was also impressed by B’s ability to kick it off, especially given only one other person had any acro experience - the ability to rally strangers and make everyone feel included is admirable.

Went to the Sunday night market as well, which is the largest out of all the ones in the city. I walked around for over an hour and a half and still didn’t everything, but there’s an insane amount of hand made crafts, souvenirs, clothing, and food to peruse.

Ayutthaya: The Ruined City

Days 11-12 

Lack of other tourists means more Pixel 3 wide-angle selfies. Apologies in advance :)

The ancient ruined city of Ayutthaya served as the capital of Siam until it was razed by the Burmese, who frequently warred with the kingdoms of ancient Thailand. It’s a UNESCO world heritage site for the unique architecture styles and city planning, built as a water-based settlement on a defensible isle with three rivers that flood annually. Most people visiting Bangkok will do day trips up here to view a few of the ruined temples, but I decided to stay for a night since it’s on the way north to Chiang Mai anyways.

The ride up was on the most decrepit looking train I’ve ever seen - 15 Baht (50 cents) for a 2hr scenic ride. We were delayed for an excruciating hour sitting in non-AC midday conditions, but I did strike up a conversation with a Thai guy around my age. He lived further north but came back every few months to visit family (but mainly party with his friends) and spoke great English despite not learning until high school apparently, with a slight British accent learned from his instructor. When I asked about his job, he said he was ‘a soldier’ but did mostly paperwork. He was bored and considered switching to training, but also mentioned that would require being outside of AC - I guess even locals don’t love the summer climate here.

Ayutthaya itself was a much smaller local town. I checked out some extremely photogenic ruins  but wasn’t particularly rigorous with crossing them all off, being burnt out from all the Bangkok temples. Biking around the second day and just chilling in the shade of the less frequented corners was my way of combating my to-do list mentality when normally traveling.

Most critically though, I FINALLY met some people at the hostel and enjoyed the local night market street food with them. It was much less stressful than the Bangkok oen but every bit as tasty. Everyone is heading up to Chiang Mai so we’ll hopefully stay in touch.



Bangkok: Badass Temples and Bustle

Gonna post briefer updates as I’m traveling, and longer posts as I have the time!

Day 6 - July 2: Going to Bangkok

  • I’m super jaded about cab drivers after visiting Morocco, so I tried Grab, failed 3 times before someone accepted for 345BHT ($11), but was too far away. Ended up getting an official cab which wasn’t sketchy like a lot of my research warned - was metered and ended up being 250.

  • Checked into my hostel room and killed 4 mosquitos within 20 min of walking in. Going to sleep knowing bugs can get in stresses me out. Ugh. Instead of moisturizer after showering I get to marinate myself in deet every night now I guess. Definitely appreciate not having a shitty climate at home, or having to deal with this in HK

  • Kind of questioning why am I even going on this trip - how much of this is out of actual interest of these particular locations (maybe for Buddhism and muay thai) vs just wanting cool stories + the practicality of this being a well traveled destination? Or that whole idea of experiential consumerism again.

Day 7 - July 3: Hostel Angst

Just one of MANY beautiful buildings I saw.

Went to the grand palace, wat pho. The temples are pretty damn crazy intricate. There were so many Chinese everywhere though I felt like I was in HK again.

I’m staying at a hostel near Khaosan road, which is a popular backpacker’s area near the party street, out of someone’s recommendation. They had a pub crawl that night which I didn’t want to pay for, but had a few drinks and socialized.

Lots of small talk conversations - where are you from, how long are you staying, where else are you going - which gets tiring after a few times when you have to yell over the music. Met a Congolese girl who was working in Thailand for a bit and talked about Morocco - turns out she lived in Casablanca but didn’t like it because she couldn’t adjust to life with just restrictive gender norms. Also met a Polish dude who has lived in Chengdu for 4 years, owns an underground rap club there, and does freestyle in the local dialect (v impressive). Made in China by 88rising came up and he got real hyped - apparently Chengdu (where 88rising started) is the creative/arts capital of China, with lots of LGBT, artists, musicians, and a free-spirited vibe. Apparently this conflicts with the govt at times, who will shut down their concerts. Why? ‘Because they’re too cool man’!

The unglamorous parts of solo traveling
It’s always hit or miss solo traveling in terms of how your hostel ends up, and whether you meet people you vibe with. In this case, I underestimated how tryhard party it’d be. Lots of fucked up college looking kids. Wasn’t feeling it and literally hid in my bunk for awhile.

Downstairs they’re chanting - 

I say mad, you say monkey (the place is called Mad Monkey)

I say let's get, you say fucked up

...I'm too old for this shit. I mean I did this as recently as Barcelona in Feb, which was fun but also how I ended up drinking two whole bottles of wine, getting mugged at 5am, and breaking my wrist though.

There’s a Thai bartender badly mcing, mostly just singing along with Mask Off in accented, off key English now.

The music is literally shaking the ground below me on the second floor... Flashbacks to New Years in Budapest - probably the loneliest moment in my life.

Feeling like a foreigner regardless of where I go

There’s often an initial, subconscious discomfort with showing up to a hostel and seeing zero people that look like me. This is typically dispelled as soon as I begin conversing with people and finding things to connect over (cuz we’re all just one people mannn), but the first thing I notice is the stark whiteness I often find myself in. Regardless of how much more fluent my English is, or how easily I’m able to drive conversations with sufficient motivation or liquor, there’s a sense of foreignness that I’m not used to feeling, having grown up in the Bay Area. Most assume I’m a lost Chinese tourist until I open my mouth.

In HK there was an ease from looking like everybody else, but still a slight apprehension that I'd be pushed beyond my basic Canto at any point. There was one time there where the cashier asked if I wanted a receipt or not, but used a different word than I'm used to, causing me to stare blankly after an otherwise fluent exchange. Needless to say, my mixed identity is definitely something I’m still grappling with.

Eventually I stop moping and decide to check out Khaosan Road myself.

Khaosan Road

Didn’t end up drinking on Khaosan, but I did get this ice cream from this terrifying McDonald’s.

Restaurants/bars with live American music, massage parlors, and ppl offering scorpions, laughing gas, pingpong shows, and tourist knickknacks all blended seamlessly into one street.

  • Noticed several families, unlike most nightlife areas

  • Grateful I'm a dude and can walk these areas alone without much harassment, though Thailand doesn’t seem too aggressive. I also have the experience of ignoring people from the days of dodging fliers on Sproul Plaza lol.

Day 8 - July 4: Getting Cultured

wat arun, amulet/flower markets, chinatown, arts and culture center, mbk

- ppl spend all day handmaking these beautiful leis and garlands to sell for 60 cents each. Barely any buyers mid day when I went, but apparently hotels show up at the end of the day with trucks to buy them out

- bkk traffic 'if it's less than 2 miles, just walk' is real. Roads were jammed solid, with even motorbikes struggling to push their way through traffic with maneuveurs that would get you ticketed in SF.

- chinatown even denser, with more street food, but still familiar jam of restaurants, grocers, cheap markets, except every sign is thai/chinese instead of eng/chinese. didnt get to explore it much bc i got stuck in a storm and went to indoor places instead

Bangkok Arts and Culture Center

This was a cool area to relax a bit. On display included architecture final projects modeling things from climate change adapted buildings, community malls, to homeless housing, as well as abstract art pieces and weird fan flash videos of some Gundam bootleg.

One of the reasons I love wandering areas is because you can stumble across things you weren’t expecting. I noticed a crowd forming at the arts center and checked it out - turns out there was an interpretive dance performance themed on bridging cultural barriers, hosted by the Goethe Institut and a few other organizations. It explored the motifs of gender norms, greed, and divisiveness, through labels of language, nationality, and wealth, all without speaking. The silence broke at the end when everyone started speaking in their native tongue to convey the unintelligible chaos that can arise when you smash different cultures together. It was cool to see this collab between people from 4 Asian countries, a South American director, and a German organization - all for free! You wont find shit like this in SF.

- Had bougie drinks with a work friend at a rooftop bar on the more developed side of town. Felt like a completely diff city, reminds of the drastically diff travel lives I live when work vs personal (esp solo) traveling

Day 9 - July 5: Finding Comfort in Change and Stillness

Yaowarat night market

Went to golden buddha temple, chinatown night markets, friendzone cafe, norn yaowarat

Felt kinda shitty about my experience thus far, decided to move hostels - lots of indecisiveness as a result of wanting to overoptimize (best location, rating, ability to socialize, etc) which often leads me to read reviews for like 2 hours and still not decide. Very happy with the place i got tho - there's no other solo travelers afaik but way cleaner, and nicer rooms.

The rigor of walking thru the entire city and plowing thru tourist sight after sight has been taking its toll - I need to shift away from the whole 'checklist' mindset of crossing as many locations as possible, and feeling fomo and regret if I didn’t get to all the 'must see events'. Hung out at a cafe (mostly for its name cuz friendzone lol) and at the hostel for awhile.

Chinatown Yaowarat nightmarket

  • About as chaotic as taiwan/hk ones, except in this case it's split on two sides of a main road with tons of traffic surging through

  • Broad mix of chinese and thai dishes and desserts

  • Had some dank pad thai and a giant mango smoothie for 2 bucks. So good

Tinder date with ‘G’

Australian working in legal services for a merged company between an Aus and Chinese company in Singapore, mostly on belt and road development projects in SEA. Interesting take on the political implications of accepting Chinese investment money, and on Australian expats vs comfort of staying in country. Works crazy Asian work hours like everyone else. Checked out some cool bougie cocktail bars.

Day 10 - July 6: A Local Perspective

Friggin beautiful

Ate some food, checked out some museums, and went on a date with ‘F’, a Thai local born and raised in the area. Really fun and genuine personality - got some dessert toast (different from the HK style) and ‘butterfly pea’ drink, checked out a nice temple with a great sunset view, took some photos, and got dinner. She did exchange in high school and lived in Delaware, and explored a bit around the States with her host family. Talked about the differences of tones in Thai vs Chinese, job searching in Thailand leveraging her English skills, conservative Asian family upbringings. Some random tidbits:

  • When at the temple, there was a sign that said ‘Way up’ to the roof view of the stupa - F mentioned that in Thai it was more like ‘ascend towards heaven’, which was much more poetic given the spiritual context. Finding out things that are lost in translation is always awesome.

  • I had no idea wtf butterfly pea was. Apparently it’s a flower, also used as an ointment to promote hair growth.

  • There are 44 letters in the Thai alphabet, with 5 tones. I found out she was taking Mandarin class (which has 4) but it’s still difficult because the tonation and pitch don’t match up. Cantonese has 6 or more, depending on who you ask, but comes natively to me so it was hard to visualize academically until someone showed me this site.

  • When I asked her about the role of Buddhism in education, she told me she had to memorize all the Buddhist chants, which you hear monks reciting in temples, in primary school. She also had to practice meditation for 30 minutes at a time (while professing she couldn’t deal with more than 10 before getting sleepy). Her school taught most classes in English, so she had to learn the chants in English too.

  • She watches a reality show about talking to dead people. I initially laughed thinking this was junk tv/fake but she said she cries every episode 1. because she's sensitive but also 2. because it brings closure to families that want to speak to a lost relative, and makes her appreciate people in her life more and treat others kindly. V wholesome.

  • Her English teacher was Thai, a non-native speaker, so it wasn’t until she did exchange that she learned proper emphasis for a lot of words. Despite being non-tonal, there isn’t really any way to know how a word is stressed (like history being on the first syllable HI-stor-ee, instead of hi-stor-EE) unless you hear it pronounced correctly. Also called out how randomly knowledge is nall-edge instead of know-ledge. I guess all those unemployed humanities students who come teach in Asia actually do have a lot of impact.

Hong Kong: Catching up with Canto

June 26 - July 2

Days 1-5

Note: the format will probably change for future posts, since this is written fully in retrospect rather than covering my agenda as it goes. Still figuring how to present content out as I go!

Thoughts

I visited here a few years ago with my sister but wanted to come back before heading into Southeast Asia - partially because of convenient flights from the states, and partially to experience more of the city itself, rather than just the tourist sites. It’s also one of the few foreign countries where I don’t feel like I stand out. As an Asian-American who speaks Cantonese but defaults to English for anything beyond a 10 year old’s vocabulary, it’s a familiar culture but still friendly to my Western self. Anywhere mainland, even in the south, has standardized on Mandarin, and pretty much every other country just assumes I’m a Chinese tourist until I start talking.

For logistics, I was fortunate enough to have Jacob, a British friend that I met in Marrakech, move to HK recently and host me. It’s a rare but awesome example of being able to reunite with someone you met during travels. Travel friendships, especially those met while solo, can be fast and deep. You’re strangers passing by in the lobby one moment, and two days later you know each others’ life stories, have a whole host of shenanigans and inside jokes you’ve shared, and are probably headed to different countries, never to see each other again. 

While in the city, I spent time with a few distinct groups, which was a cool way to get unique perspectives of the same city. 

  • Jacob and a few other expats

  • a HK native friend who went to high school/college with me but went back for work, as well as a few of his banking/finance friends

  • a HK local, born and raised

But for most of the time, I wandered around by myself, eating alone and hiding from the the stifling, damp heat as much as possible in the many shopping complexes. The city itself has a frenetic pace and not a lot of traditional tourist sites to experience as a solo destination, outside of eating and shopping. I do wonder what a staying in a hostel, which is how I usually solo travel, would have been like since I could’ve led people in social situations instead of being lost like I usually am. Rooms probably would’ve been bad though, given how scarce real estate is.

That’s not to say there weren’t notable experiences. Aside from food (which I could do a whole dedicated post on, to be honest), some highlights included:

Hong Kong History Museum

Surprisingly thorough, going from the formation of the island and biome through the country’s history, up until the (suspiciously abstract) exhibit on reunification with China. I spent like 3 hours here absorbing information and AC. 


Sai Kung -> Ham Tin beach

This was the first time I had visited the New Territories outside of the main city. I was totally not expecting to speedboat, beach, take a scenic (but sweltering) hike, and hop into waterfall pools this early into Asia. It was dope.

Brokeback waterfall shenanigans

Tinder date in Kowloon

Yes, I Tinder pretty frequently when solo traveling abroad. More for conversing with locals and breaking up otherwise solitary days than strictly romantic pursuits, but I’ll write a future dedicated post on this, since people tend to have strong reactions or many questions. 

In any case, my Hong Kong date with ‘S’ consisted of a few bars, skyline views at a park, 7 Eleven wine, and over eight hours of conversation. I ended up staying in Tsim Sha Tsui that night, in no small part due to the protest on the anniversary of Chinese reunification leading to rioting where I was staying.

Day trip to Shenzhen

Visited a good friend in the area and ate, got a massage, and saw some dope city lights. At night their skyline practically turns into a Disneyland light show, with music/animations from different artists. The bullet train from HK takes < 20 minutes (though immigration a bit longer). It was cool to see the little bit of the ‘Silicon Valley of China’ that I could. All of the mobile/QR based payment and services is cool to see, but also meant I was totally helpless without WePay or a Chinese bank card.

Can’t directly upload videos of the light show here, but I’ll add it to my IG highlights.


Things I Learned

A compilation of things I heard during my stay. Note these are typically from a single data point and are my interpretations, not verbatim quotes, so take em with a grain of salt:

Expats/Wan Chai

On Sunday there are tons of Filipino women just picnicking on cardboard boxes on random (not particularly pleasant) streets and subway stops. Apparently they work as maids and only get Sunday off to socialize. Makes me grateful for SF parks and public gathering spaces.

I stayed the same area, Wan Chai, last time as well, but never realized before it was the red light district. There were lots of Southeast Asians in general, with every bar in the area featuring a  Filipino live band. One of the streets I walked past was filled with strip clubs with Chinese grandmas sitting out in stools soliciting people in. It was a lil weird to see women who could’ve been my aunt or grandma working that kind of job, but they likely don’t have the luxury of choice. Central island hosts most of the expats, and I definitely saw more than a few old white dudes in these bars, sometimes talking to afore-mentioned Southeast Asian females…

Banker Lifestyle

I know Asian work hours are notoriously bad, but it was still a bit jarring to see it firsthand. My friend mentioned working till 11 or 12 is normal during live deals, and two of his friends we were getting dinner with missed it because they worked past 10 (on a Friday too!) One guy had to ask for a computer at 1130pm to jump on work things mid-drinking. I can imagine this is similar for finance elsewhere too, I’m just too bubbled up in tech lyfe in SF though.

I also heard that club culture was very materialistic - I mean as a concept it inherently is, but with the crazy price of liquor in HK especially you have to spend a lot if you’re trying to table or go chasing ladies. I mentioned that this sounded like an unsustainable lifestyle, working endless hours just to drink off the stress on the weekends, but someone mentioned it’s one of the only ways (the other being real estate) to live a comfortable life in HK. 

The 1 bedroom we were drinking at also apparently was ~$5500/mo rent! It was in a nice area, but made me balk at how one person, my age, could afford that. I know HK also has crazy wealth inequality, but even those at the top are worked to hold their positions.

From the history museum

I go to a lot of museums when I solo travel. It’s nice to be able to linger or skip areas based on my own interest, and not worry about how others feel about pacing. That being said, I try to take at least a couple bullet points when I see interesting facts.

  • Yue people originally, assimilated into dominant Han from North

  • South generally more peaceful, many migrated there fleeing invasions in North

  • HK was evacuated for 8 years during Qing dynasty

  • 4 different native ethnic groups from different migration waves, including boat dwellers

  • Trade inequity and restrictions were reversed with opium, its seizure+tensions led to war in 1840, China got rekt in all its major cities, signed treaty of Nanjing ceding HK, opening trade in more cities than just Guangzhou, paying reparations

  • HK was one of the last Chinese cities (under British) to fall to Japan, was occupied for 4 years, ppl interned/imprisoned, Japanized, food shortage

  • Post war industry grew in plastics, clocks, toys, flashlights

Reunification section was weirdly abstract, playing just a bunch of Chinese pop songs, video clips of happy children, and the recording of the British ceding the territory. They probably can’t take any concrete stances since it’s still a controversial topic.

From the date

From ‘S’ I’ll spare personal details, but I did hear:

  • There are a mix of different schools offered, such as private, half sponsored, full sponsored, with each category requiring different tuitions and govt standards

  • From her previous job, there’s a work culture of needing to hang around the office for the sake of being there, even if you have nothing to do. She didn’t see it really valuing creative approaches vs raw knowledge.

  • Her Mandarin wasn’t great, but she did well in English, which she stated many people valued the most as an indicator of smartness

  • TST is full of shopping malls where a lot of mainlanders come to. Apparently people buy a lot of baby supplies in HK because there was some controversy where one died from baby food in China?

  • People protest on reunification anniversary day every year. This time was much worse with the breakins to the assembly chamber due to recent tensions.

Ladies Market in TST

Overall, I enjoyed my time in Hong Kong and was happy to have a chance to catch up with old friends and meet new ones, but the last day was a little tough with heat fatigue, everyone I knew busy with work, and nothing left I wanted to see in the city. I’ve considered living there before to reconnect a bit with cultural roots, but it would definitely have to be short term in such a busy, expensive city. The next time I visit will probably be with friends or family - there’s something that just doesn’t feel right eating dim sum alone :)

View from the apartment - an unflattering but realistic pic of the city.

Background: Wtf are you doing?

I've talked to many of you who would be reading this about my plans already, but in case you need a refresher - I'm taking 3 months off work and solo traveling Asia! I have the general order of where I want to go, but am uncharacteristically winging most of the specifics.

The questions people always ask are 1. why u do dis/why now and 2. wtf you're so lucky how?? - so I’ll try to answer both somewhat briefly here.

The Motivation

I've felt a restlessness to either move out of SF or do extended travel since October 2018, before I changed jobs at Meraki. I only realized after the fact that I had been burnt out. But more fundamentally, I felt I had slipped into living life on autopilot. Turning 25 also sparked a bit of a quarter life crisis, with a severe case of introspection. I was no longer a 'recent grad' just 'trying out this one job before I figure out the rest of my life'. After carrying out my programmed directive of climbing the education ladder and seeking gainful employment, what else was there? Sure, I was now climbing the corporate ladder, but what did I actually want to accomplish in life aside from get paid and live comfortably? 

The figuring time had come, which, combined with an unsated dose of the travel bug (or #wanderlust) from my new job led to a scattered few months of trying out therapy, attending Zen Center Dharma talks and meditation, reading a bunch of existentialist and self-help books, and countless (ongoing) discussions with friends.

I changed jobs in October, which provided distraction but not resolution to the existential anxiety underneath. 

Making it Happen

By mid-May, my restlessness came back in full force. I considered quitting and interviewing elsewhere, only to realize that even if I were to get a new offer, start dates usually happen within 3-4 weeks. Cisco fortunately offers (unpaid) extended personal leave, and by summer I finished a major project and was able to clear a proposal for time off with my manager. I had the willingness, and the permission, but even then still struggled to follow actually doing it. It’s extremely easy, dare I say even natural, for me to torpedo any idea, especially my own, with criticisms:

- you're not only missing out on a couple months salary, but also tanking your career progression when there's a juicy project you should be leading right now - just take 2 weeks to chill and get back into it

- you're just buying into a new capitalist narrative of experiential consumerism and transformational travel, without any actual cultural immersion. Eat pray love is for basic white bitches

- you just got mugged and broke your wrist in Barcelona, you're gonna die/get malaria/suffer massive shits if you spend 3 months abroad

...I could keep going but you get the point.

All of these hold some validity - I know because I'm a rational person and came up with them. But they’re also full of cognitive distortions. I’ve begun to realize that my tendency for over-rationalization and over-optimization often locks me into decision paralysis, leaving me to settle on the default option in life that presents itself, and give up self-agency. Besides, I’m fortunate enough to have the financial means, simplicity of solo-traveling as a guy, and freedom of not having to take care of parents or any dependents - why not now? 

So I’m gonna take some time from my normal life in SF, dictated by the colored blocks of my Gcal, punctuated by libations and weekend gatherings. Having visited much of Europe, I was weighing between South America and Southeast Asia, but ended up with the latter due to cultural interest, backpacking familiarity, and cost, and booked a one-way ticket, stopping first in Hong Kong before going to mainland SEA. 

So...what are you doing?

Getting space from the mental overhead of managing work, friend, and familial obligations to reflect is already huge. There are concrete things as well - be in nature, meet people from other cultures, train muay thai, meditate, practice photography, force myself to write (ha). And there are some very abstract questions to mull over - What do I personally value, vs what family or society has instilled in me? What do I want to create in the world? Does spirituality mean anything to me? 

Am I gonna ~~find myself~~? Maybe, if being ‘found’ was even a discrete state of being. But I’m gonna experience and learn random shit about the places I visit, which I want to  share here, and eat some dope $1 street food in the meantime. I’m writing more concrete travel posts as well - don’t worry it’s not all gonna be angst.

So here I am, typing this up in a hostel bed in Ayatthuya at 1am instead of figuring out how the hell I’m getting to Chiang Mai. Thanks for reading :) 

my dope ass hotel blanket

Note: I tend to make decisions informed by many viewpoints - there are tons of people that helped me work through this decision process who are unmentioned, but s/o to y’all.